Primary love needs of Men and Women

I attended a talk given by a couple from the Philippines during a Singles for Christ conference here in Auckland. The title of the talk was "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus."

According to the couple, the primary love needs of men and women differ that is why there is conflict in a relationship. The inability of the partner to recognize and satisfy the love need of the other results to conflict and dissatisfaction.

Here are the love needs of men and women.

Women need to receive...

1. Caring
- showing interest in a women's feeling
- being concerned for her well-being

2. Understanding
- listening without judgment but with empathy to a woman expressing her feelings

3. Respect
- responds in a way that acknowledges and prioritizes her rights, wishes and needs
- takes into consideration her thoughts and feelings

4. Devotion
- gives priority to her needs
- supports her

5. Validation
- does not object or ague with a woman's feeling

6. Reassurance
- assuring her again and again

Men need to receive...

1. Trust
- believing that he wants what is best for her
- shows positive beliefs in his abilities and intentions

2. Acceptance
- receives a man without trying to change him

3. Appreciation
- appreciate his efforts

4. Admiration
- regard him with delight and approval
- admire his humor, strength, integrity...

5. Approval
- acknowledges the goodness in a man

6. Encouragement
- showing all six encourages him

Interesting isn't it? So have you done any of these for your partner lately??

(I got this from a hand-out given during the talk. If you know the original source, pls feel free to tell me so I can properly cite it. Thanks!)